Funeral traditions

Why Do We Have Funerals?

It is important to recognize that funerals are for the living ... for those who have suffered the trauma of losing a loved one. It is through the funeral process that a number of emotional needs are met. The funeral declares that a death has occurred, commemorates the life that has been lived, and offers family and friends the opportunity to pay tribute to their loved one.

"The funeral is not about caskets and rituals. The funeral is about mental health and healing."

The Visitation (Before the Funeral Ceremony)

Is a time for friends and family to support one another in their grief?
Acknowledge the reality of the death.
Visit and remember the person who died and say a personal good bye.

Open or Closed Casket

Viewing is a way to honor the transition from life to death and saying our last goodbyes.
Embalming temporarily preserves the body. The casket may be open for the visitation. Open casket visitations or funeral followed by cremation is an option.

Burial, Cremation or Entombment

How the body will be cared for after death is an important decision. The decision is based generally on family and tradition. Many choose earth burial. Some choose cremation or entombment. They are not intended to replace the funeral - they are simply alternatives.

The Eulogy

Acknowledges the unique life of the person who died and the significance of that life for all who shared in it. It may be delivered by a clergy person, a family member or a friend(s).

Memories

Are the most precious legacy we have after someone dies.
"Remembering the person I have loved allows me to slowly heal. Healing does not mean I will forget. Actually, it means I will remember”.

Music

Helps us access our feelings, both happy and sad. Consider music that was meaningful to the person who died or to the family.

Funeral Procession

Accompany each other to the grave site usually led by the hearse containing the casket.
It is a symbol of mutual support honoring the deceased.

Important Things to Remember

Keep good records and be sure that loved ones know where records are kept. Every adult should have a will, regardless of age or financial situation. Make your arrangements now before the need arises.